Nicole Lam, MA, RCC – Relationship Anxiety & Attachment Therapist in Vancouver, BC | English & Cantonese Counselling

Nicole Lam is a BIPOC Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) providing compassionate, trauma-informed counselling for adults in English and Cantonese. She specializes in supporting clients through anxiety, depression, life transitions, relationship challenges, and identity exploration.

Who I Work With

My Therapeutic Approach

I draw from multiple evidence-based modalities, tailoring my approach to what works best for each client. Healing isn’t one-size-fits-all — what matters is finding the right fit for you.

Attachment-Based Therapy

Understanding how your early relationships shaped your current patterns — and creating new experiences of secure connection. This is the foundation of my work with relationship anxiety, because lasting change comes from understanding why you relate the way you do.

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Working with the different “parts” of yourself — the anxious part, the people-pleasing part, the inner critic — with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment. IFS helps you develop a new relationship with the parts of yourself you’ve been trying to silence.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)

Processing past experiences that continue to affect you, reducing their emotional charge so they no longer drive your reactions. EMDR is particularly effective for anxiety rooted in specific memories or relational experiences.

Somatic & Mindfulness-Based Approaches

Anxiety lives in the body, not just the mind. I work with nervous system regulation, helping you reconnect with your body and build the capacity to move from overwhelm into calm — without white-knuckling through it.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

Identifying and shifting the thought patterns that keep you stuck in cycles of worry, self-doubt, and avoidance. CBT provides concrete, practical tools you can use between sessions.

Solution-Focused Therapy

Building on your existing strengths — because you already have resources within you. This approach helps you move from stuck to empowered by focusing on what’s already working and amplifying it.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

Developing psychological flexibility — the ability to be present, hold difficult feelings without being controlled by them, and take action aligned with your values even when it’s uncomfortable.

Culturally Responsive Counselling

As a BIPOC counsellor, I bring cultural awareness and humility to every session. I understand that healing doesn’t look the same for everyone — and that the “standard” therapeutic advice doesn’t always fit when your cultural context is different.

I understand that:

• Family means something different in collectivist cultures — and “just set boundaries” isn’t always that simple
• Harmony, duty, and respect for elders carry real weight — boundaries need to honour that complexity
• Mental health stigma may have shaped how you think about therapy — and it took courage to get here
• Identity is complex, especially when you navigate multiple cultures daily
• You may be the first person in your family to seek therapy — and that comes with its own feelings

If you’re looking for a therapist who understands the nuance of cultural and family dynamics without you having to explain everything — I’m here.

Counselling in Cantonese (廣東話輔導)

有時候，用母語表達自己的感受會更容易。

I offer therapy in Cantonese for clients who feel more comfortable expressing themselves in their first language. Speaking in Cantonese can help access emotions and memories that feel distant in English, making therapy more effective and meaningful.

Finding a therapist who shares your language — and your cultural context — can transform the therapy experience. It means not having to translate your feelings, your family dynamics, or your cultural references. It means being understood without the exhausting work of explanation.

如果你正在尋找一位能夠用廣東話溝通的輔導員，歡迎聯繫我預約免費諮詢。

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