Nicole Lam, MA, RCC – Relationship Anxiety & Attachment Therapist in Vancouver, BC | English & Cantonese Counselling
Nicole Lam is a BIPOC Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) providing compassionate, trauma-informed counselling for adults in English and Cantonese. She specializes in supporting clients through anxiety, depression, life transitions, relationship challenges, and identity exploration.
Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.
Struggling with Relationship Anxiety? You’re Not Alone.
Do your relationships leave you feeling anxious, insecure, or constantly second-guessing yourself? Maybe you find yourself overanalyzing texts, needing reassurance that everything is okay, or pulling away before someone can leave you first.
These patterns aren’t character flaws—they’re often rooted in early experiences that taught you connection wasn’t safe or reliable. The good news? They can change.
I’m Nicole Lam, a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Vancouver, BC. I specialize in helping adults understand their attachment patterns, heal relationship anxiety, and build more secure connections with themselves and others.
I offer therapy in both **English and Cantonese (廣東話)**, creating a space where language and cultural context support—rather than complicate—your healing.
About Nicole
I became a therapist because I believe deeply in the power of connection to heal. As someone who has navigated the intersection of multiple cultures, I understand how identity, family expectations, and belonging shape our emotional lives.
My approach combines genuine empathy with practical strategies. Therapy with me isn’t just about understanding your patterns—it’s about building real skills to feel more secure in yourself and your relationships.
I bring a warm, non-judgmental presence to every session. My clients often tell me they feel truly heard and understood—sometimes for the first time.
Who I Work With
I provide counselling for adults across British Columbia who are navigating:
Relationship Anxiety & Attachment Patterns
– Constantly worrying about what your partner thinks of you
– Needing frequent reassurance that things are okay
– Fear of abandonment or rejection
– Difficulty trusting even when nothing is wrong
– Pushing people away before they can leave
– Feeling “too much” or “too needy” in relationships
Boundaries & Communication
– Difficulty saying no or expressing your needs
– People-pleasing at the expense of your own well-being
– Conflict avoidance or explosive reactions during disagreements
– Feeling responsible for others’ emotions
Breakups, Transitions & Life Changes
– Processing grief after a relationship ends
– Navigating career changes or identity shifts
– Feeling lost or uncertain about your direction
– Rebuilding confidence after a major transition
Family Dynamics & Cultural Expectations
– Managing expectations from parents or extended family
– Navigating intergenerational trauma
– Balancing cultural identity with personal values
– Setting boundaries while maintaining family connection
Self-Esteem & Confidence
– Persistent self-doubt or negative self-talk
– Feeling like you’re not good enough
– Imposter syndrome in work or relationships
– Building a stronger relationship with yourself
Credentials & Training
Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology** — City University of Seattle
Bachelor of Commerce** — University of British Columbia (UBC)
Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC)** — BC Association of Clinical Counsellors (#20723)
Specialized training in EMDR, attachment-based therapy, and trauma-informed care
Prior experience in marketing and HR, bringing a practical, strategic lens to personal development
Meet Nicole
Frequently Asked Questions
What is relationship anxiety?
Relationship anxiety involves persistent worry, insecurity, and fear within romantic relationships—even when there’s no evidence of a problem. It often shows up as needing constant reassurance, overanalyzing your partner’s behavior, or fearing abandonment.
What is attachment-based therapy?
Attachment-based therapy explores how your early relationships (especially with caregivers) shaped your patterns of connection in adulthood. By understanding these patterns, you can develop more secure ways of relating to yourself and others.
Do you offer therapy in Cantonese?
Yes. I provide counselling in both English and Cantonese (廣東話). Many clients find it easier to express emotions and access deeper feelings when speaking in their first language.
What is the difference between anxious and avoidant attachment?
Anxious attachment involves craving closeness and fearing rejection, often leading to reassurance-seeking or clinginess. Avoidant attachment involves discomfort with intimacy and a preference for independence, often leading to emotional distance. Both can shift with awareness and therapeutic support.
Do you work with BIPOC clients?
Yes. As a BIPOC counsellor, I bring cultural awareness to my practice and understand the unique challenges of navigating identity, family expectations, and systemic barriers.
How do I know if therapy is right for me?
If you’re struggling with patterns that feel stuck—in relationships, self-esteem, or emotional well-being—therapy can help. I offer a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your goals and see if we’re a good fit.
Can I do therapy online?
Yes. I offer virtual counselling sessions for clients anywhere in British Columbia. Online therapy is effective and allows for flexibility in scheduling.
How long does therapy take?
This varies based on your goals and what you’re working through. Some clients benefit from short-term work (8-12 sessions), while others prefer ongoing support. We’ll check in regularly about what’s working for you.
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Ready to Start?
If you’re tired of feeling anxious in your relationships and ready to build something more secure, I’d love to connect.
**Book a free 15-minute consultation** to see if we’re a good fit.
I believe that having the right support when embarking on a healing journey can be one of the most important elements to self-transformation.