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THE FREEZE RESPONSE IN COMPLEX TRAUMA
For individuals who experienced chronic, repeated trauma and neglect, particularly in childhood, the freeze response can become a default reaction rather than an emergency response. This is a central finding in the study of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD). Lanius, Bluhm, and Frewen (2011) identified two distinct subtypes of trauma response:
– The hyperarousal subtype: characterised by heightened reactivity, anxiety, flashbacks, and emotional flooding
– The dissociative subtype: characterised by emotional numbing, detachment, depersonalisation, and shutdown
Both are trauma responses, however, they involve different neural pathways and require different therapeutic approaches. The dissociative subtype, which overlaps significantly with the freeze response, is often less recognised because it is quiet. The person does not look distressed. They look blank, distant, or “fine.”
Van der Kolk and colleagues (2005) found that individuals exposed to chronic interpersonal trauma, especially in childhood , consistently demonstrated disturbances across six domains: regulation of affect and impulses, memory and attention, self-perception, interpersonal relations, somatisation, and systems of meaning. The freeze/dissociative response cuts across all of these.
HOW THE FREEZE RESPONSE SHOWS UP IN DAILY LIFE
For many people, the freeze response is not limited to moments of acute danger. It has become a habitual pattern: a way the nervous system responds to stress, conflict, and even ordinary emotional demands. Here is what it can look like:
Going blank during conflict
A person may suddenly lose the ability to think clearly or speak during an argument. Words disappear; the mind feels empty. Afterward, they may think of everything they wanted to say, but in the moment, nothing was accessible. This is not a lack of intelligence or assertiveness. It is the dorsal vagal system activating in response to perceived threat.
Emotional numbness
A persistent sense of feeling nothing, not sad, not happy, just flat. Some people describe it as watching their own life from behind glass. This can be confusing, especially when the person knows they “should” feel something but cannot access the emotion.
Difficulty making decisions
Even small decisions- what to eat, what to wear, how to respond to a text- can feel paralysing. The nervous system is in a state of low-energy shutdown, and the executive functions needed for decision-making are offline.
Procrastination and avoidance
Chronic avoidance of tasks, conversations, or responsibilities is often interpreted as laziness. But for many people, it is a freeze response-the nervous system immobilising in the face of something that feels overwhelming, even if it is objectively manageable.
Physical symptoms
The freeze response is not only psychological. It often manifests in the body: chronic fatigue, muscle tension or heaviness, feeling “stuck” in the body, digestive issues, chronic pain, or a sense of being physically unable to move or get started. Nijenhuis and colleagues documented that somatoform dissociation, bodily symptoms of dissociation, closely mirrors animal defensive responses, with freezing, analgesia, and altered eating patterns among the most characteristic symptoms.
Disconnection during intimacy
Some people dissociate during physical closeness or sexual intimacy ,mentally “leaving” even though their body remains present. This can be deeply confusing for both the person and their partner. It is not a rejection of the other person; it is the nervous system responding to vulnerability as if it were threat.
Social withdrawal
Pulling away from relationships, cancelling plans, not responding to messages, not because of disinterest, but because the energy required for social engagement feels unavailable. The social engagement system (ventral vagal) is offline, and the dorsal vagal system has taken over.
The “I’m fine” response
Automatically saying “I’m fine” when asked how they are, not as a social nicety, but because they genuinely cannot access how they feel. Emotional awareness requires a level of nervous system regulation that the freeze state does not support.
WHY THE FREEZE RESPONSE GETS MISUNDERSTOOD
The freeze response is routinely misinterpreted- by the person experiencing it and by those around them. It gets labelled as:
– Laziness (“Why can’t you just do it?”)
– Apathy (“You don’t seem to care”)
– Avoidance (“You’re just running away from the problem”)
– Weakness (“Why didn’t you fight back?”)
– Indifference (“You seem so cold”)
None of these labels are accurate. The freeze response is a physiological state, not a reflection of one’s personality. It is the nervous system’s way of conserving energy and protecting the organism when it has determined that active coping is not possible. Understanding this distinction, between a behaviour and a nervous system state, is one of the most important shifts a person can make in their recovery.
WHAT HELPS
Recovery from a chronic freeze pattern is not about willpower or motivation. It is about helping the nervous system learn that it is safe enough to come out of shutdown.
This typically involves:
– Body-based approaches that work with the nervous system directly (somatic experiencing, sensorimotor psychotherapy, polyvagal-informed therapy)
– Gradual, titrated exposure to activation- not overwhelming the system, but gently expanding its window of tolerance
– Co-regulation with a safe, attuned other- allowing the social engagement system to come back online through connection
– Psychoeducation- understanding what is happening in the body removes shame and creates space for compassion
– Grounding techniques that bring the person back into their body and the present moment
Research on prolonged exposure therapy for PTSD (Jaycox, Foa, & Morral, 1998) found that individuals with significant dissociative responses may not benefit from standard exposure protocols, because emotional processing requires a degree of engagement that the freeze state does not allow. This has led to growing recognition that stabilisation and nervous system regulation must often come before trauma processing.
A NOTE FOR THOSE WHO RECOGNISE THEMSELVES HERE
If any of this sounds familiar, it is worth knowing: the freeze response is not something that is wrong with you. It is something your nervous system learned to do in order to survive. It was adaptive once. The work now is not to override it with force, but to gently teach your system that it has other options, that safety exists, and that connection is possible. That process does not have to happen alone.
Sources:
Porges, S. W. (2001). The Polyvagal Theory: Phylogenetic contributions to social behavior. Physiology & Behavior, 73(3), 503-513. –
Nijenhuis, E. R. S., van der Hart, O., & Steele, K. (2004). Trauma-related structural dissociation of the personality. –
Lanius, R. A., Bluhm, R. L., & Frewen, P. A. (2011). How understanding the neurobiology of complex PTSD can inform clinical practice. Acta Psychiatrica Scandinavica, 124(3), 169-181.
van der Kolk, B. A., Roth, S., Pelcovitz, D., Sunday, S., & Spinazzola, J. (2005). Disorders of extreme stress. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 18(5), 389-399.
Jaycox, L. H., Foa, E. B., & Morral, A. R. (1998). Influence of emotional engagement and habituation on exposure therapy for PTSD. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 66(1), 185-192.
This is educational content based on published clinical and neuroscience research. It is not medical advice or a substitute for professional therapeutic support.
About the Author
Valentina Chichiniova, MA, RCC is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and EMDR Consultant and DBR Therapist at Emergence Counselling & Wellness Inc. She provides specialized trauma recovery and nervous system regulation. With an approach rooted in neurobiology, Valentina helps clients move beyond symptom management toward profound, lasting healing.