Why Talk Therapy May Have Felt Like It Didn’t Work for You If you’ve spent months — or years — in therapy and walked away feeling articulate about your problems but not actually different, this post is for you. It’s one of the most common things I...
When most people hear the word “trauma,” they picture catastrophic events — a car accident, an assault, a natural disaster. These are what clinicians call Big-T traumas: single, clearly identifiable events that overwhelm the nervous system and leave...
You have probably heard people describe themselves as “anxiously attached” or “avoidant.” These terms have entered mainstream culture through social media, dating advice, and pop psychology. But beneath the labels lies a robust body of research...
When Parents Can’t Meet Emotional Needs: Two Perspectives on Emotional Immaturity Most people grow up believing their family life was “normal”, even when something essential was missing. For many adults, that missing piece was emotional connection....
This is Part 2. Read Part 1: The Freeze Response — What It Is and Why It Happens → THE FREEZE RESPONSE IN COMPLEX TRAUMA For individuals who experienced chronic, repeated trauma and neglect, particularly in childhood, the freeze response can become a default reaction...
The Freeze Response: What It Is, Why It Happens When people think about how their body responds to danger, fight or flight usually comes to mind. But there is a third response that is far less understood and far more common than most people realise: the freeze...