by Nicole Lam, MA, RCC | Apr 13, 2026 | Relationships, Trauma & Recovery
You have probably heard people describe themselves as “anxiously attached” or “avoidant.” These terms have entered mainstream culture through social media, dating advice, and pop psychology. But beneath the labels lies a robust body of research...
by Nicole Lam, MA, RCC | Apr 10, 2026 | Relationships
A Different Approach to Boundaries Boundaries in collectivist families do not have to mean separation. They can mean sustainable connection and finding ways to honour your relationships while also protecting your mental health. Here is what culturally attuned...
by Nicole Lam, MA, RCC | Apr 8, 2026 | Relationships
You love your family and you also feel overwhelmed by them. These two things are not contradictions. They are the lived reality of many people who grew up in collectivist cultures, particularly Asian families, where love, loyalty, and obligation are deeply...
by Nicole Lam, MA, RCC | Apr 6, 2026 | Uncategorized
Finding a Cantonese-Speaking Therapist in BC: Why Language Matters in Therapy Imagine trying to describe the most vulnerable thing you have ever felt, but in your second language. You can do it. You have been doing it your whole life. But there is something that gets...
by Nicole Lam, MA, RCC | Apr 3, 2026 | Relationships
Why Willpower Alone Doesn’t Fix Relationship Anxiety People with relationship anxiety are often highly self-aware. They know their reactions are disproportionate. They tell themselves to “just relax” or “stop overthinking.” And it does not work because the anxiety is...
