How Attachment Shows Up in Adult Relationships Hazan and Shaver (1987) were the first to apply Bowlby’s framework systematically to adult romantic relationships. Their research demonstrated that the same patterns observed in infants: secure, anxious, avoidant...
You have probably heard people describe themselves as “anxiously attached” or “avoidant.” These terms have entered mainstream culture through social media, dating advice, and pop psychology. But beneath the labels lies a robust body of research...
A Different Approach to Boundaries Boundaries in collectivist families do not have to mean separation. They can mean sustainable connection and finding ways to honour your relationships while also protecting your mental health. Here is what culturally attuned...
You love your family and you also feel overwhelmed by them. These two things are not contradictions. They are the lived reality of many people who grew up in collectivist cultures, particularly Asian families, where love, loyalty, and obligation are deeply...
Finding a Cantonese-Speaking Therapist in BC: Why Language Matters in Therapy Imagine trying to describe the most vulnerable thing you have ever felt, but in your second language. You can do it. You have been doing it your whole life. But there is something that gets...
