How Attachment Shows Up in Adult Relationships Hazan and Shaver (1987) were the first to apply Bowlby’s framework systematically to adult romantic relationships. Their research demonstrated that the same patterns observed in infants: secure, anxious, avoidant...
A breakup can feel like one of the most disorienting experiences a person goes through. Not just sad, physically painful. The kind of pain that sits in the chest, disrupts sleep, makes it hard to eat, and leaves a person feeling like they have lost something far...
You have probably heard people describe themselves as “anxiously attached” or “avoidant.” These terms have entered mainstream culture through social media, dating advice, and pop psychology. But beneath the labels lies a robust body of research...
A Different Approach to Boundaries Boundaries in collectivist families do not have to mean separation. They can mean sustainable connection and finding ways to honour your relationships while also protecting your mental health. Here is what culturally attuned...
You love your family and you also feel overwhelmed by them. These two things are not contradictions. They are the lived reality of many people who grew up in collectivist cultures, particularly Asian families, where love, loyalty, and obligation are deeply...
Why Willpower Alone Doesn’t Fix Relationship Anxiety People with relationship anxiety are often highly self-aware. They know their reactions are disproportionate. They tell themselves to “just relax” or “stop overthinking.” And it does not work because the anxiety is...
